The violence of stripping grips…

Per the subject title 😂 I have to ask in the Gi would many of you consider it a dick move to up the level of force to remove Gi grips during training sessions? When is a line crossed? I feel sometimes I can be “too nice” and allow some grips to be kept because I don’t want to potentially hurt a partner or escalate a roll. At the same time I feel we do a disservice to our partners if we allow them to become “overconfident” with certain grips and/or even positions(say you have Mount and partner is overly defensive… we know real life we would increase some pain/pressure here to create opportunities etc…). Where is the line and where do my long time coaches stand with this on students you roll with?